Let’s start with the basics. There is no such thing as getting over your fears, any of them. They are ingrained, and that is where they will stay.
Second, and last, there are no revelations. Realization does not come in a flash. That’s just drugs, booze or how you woke up, something that makes you happy for an instant.
Once you accept these two things – fears are there to stay and revelations are nowhere to be found – you have a better than 50/50 shot of making something of your life.